I'm not getting Married



Hey Everybody! It's Valentine's Day. This day creates excitement for some and anxiety for others. If you do not have someone special to share this day with, remember God is Jehovah Shalom, Jehovah Raffa, and Jehovah Valentine lol. I hope you laughed because I am cracking up. It is just a day. Do not allow it to consume you. For some, being single and alone on Valentine's Day feels like the end of the world. When you're married, it is just another day where you are praying you do not have to spend any extra money. The day is over-commercialized. We're over it.


Let's get into this Tea......

"I'm not getting married" is a statement that many of us have proclaimed out of the bitterness of our soul. There is a level of hurt, pain, and trauma that can cause even the most optimistic person to utter these four words. Certain types of trickery, usury, and abuse can be so heart-shattering that it will force you to decide to verbally forfeit what is for you.


Recollecting on my childhood, I remember playing house with my baby doll and easy bake oven. I would talk to an imaginary husband and nurse my cabbage patch doll. Why? Because I was born to be a wife and mother. At four years old, I almost gave my mother a heart attack. I lifted my newborn brother out of his bassinet to console his cry because she was tending to the toilet lol. To this day, I still treat him like I am his mother, and he's nearly thirty. These nurturing responses were not the result of forced gender expression. Growing up, my parents allowed me the freedom to play with dolls and climb trees. This nurturing response was innate.